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Infrired

July 10, 2017

It was a perfectly normal afternoon on a normal day and it also happened to be my birthday. A co-incidence? I would like to think so, yes. The sun was shining, when it should have been raining. But that was what was normal. On such a day, which could have been a better day, if not for what follows, she stares into space with a faraway look and almost whispers. It could have been a booming loud voice, but my memory chose to remember it as whisper.

She: Mom, I am going to stay in a live in relationship.

Milli seconds later there was just a sound of silence. My mind went into an analytical mode and knew this was payback time for all the times I may have troubled my parents. Did I miss my chance for atonement? Right here right now, in this birth you pay. My ears started hearing dramatic background scores from horror movies with glass crashing to the floor. I held tightly on to the steel bottle in my hand, least I dropped that.
She: Mom, I am going to stay in a live in relationship.
Me: (attempting to be funny)What? Here? In this house?
She exasperated: Not now Ma! When I grow up.
Me: Wait! Are you saying you are not grownup? (Forgetting the actual issue and caught on the only word that made sense now) As a grownup…
She: Do you want me to have a relationship now?
Me: No. But since you yourself  said you are grownup…which means you should be thinking about being responsible…
She: (quickly cutting short my weekly special “talk”) I meant when I grow up even more than what I am now.
Me: (Awww my little baby…) So why did you bring up this whim now?
She: See this friend of mine in this photo? Got married secretly yesterday and none of us were aware. Their parents gave in and got them married officially. She will continue with her studies.
Me: (beads of sweat forming on forehead) Okaayyyy… That’s the right thing to do though. What do you think?
She: Nothing. It’s cool
Me: (Damn right its cool!) So then what has this got to do with you in a live in?
She: Do you want me to surprise you then? I thought it is better to let you know what I am thinking.
Me: Oh thank you for considering! I would like to tell you what I am thinking, and that is (smiling sweetly) NO!
She: Why not?
Me: Because today is not the time to discuss a live in relationship?
She: So then I can have a relationship but not a live in?
Me: (quick, my senses, tell me what the right answer is) I will do a background check on the guy and then give my approval.
She: (Laughing) it doesn’t work that way Mom. It’s not marriage we are talking about here.
Me: (finding a safe exit point) End of the conversation girl. And No to live in relationship for you!
I know it doesn’t work that way. But I am still a parent a friend most of the times, who can’t help but be protective, which is when the “society pressure tool “ is brought out, in spite of not wanting to do so.

If ever there were a universal manual with FAQ’s for parents of all kinds, on how to answer the most difficult questions or statements from your “grownup” children, like a pro, that manual would need a new edition every 2 years from the look of it.

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Travel Companions

I glide through the fragrant earth, unending fluorescent green streaks contouring the pathways, drape myself in this finery, to walk towards thee. We are here together, on the edge, looking beyond the velvety valley and the pristine cerulean sky.
My adulation is unearthed, like dewdrops glistening in the tangerine rays, you deserving of the pedestal where I see you. My eyes seek the promise, which our hearts have known all through. The path is as clear as the small rivulet glistening over the gravel as we choose to be companions.

We walk together to another town and capture the diversity and humility of the inhabitants, as per our sensitivity, guiding each other but not obstructing, separate but within hearing range, performing and accomplishing the same goals. The end of the day we meet satisfied we lived our dreams accompanied by our sensibilities and desires.
My fascination towards you stays intact more so as we stop to sense, smell, taste and breathe the same air, sharing the same space.

We travel again to journeys beyond, take the path lesser known, to explore, experience, live another life, than the one we have known.